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Looking for good mental health advice places for dealing with toxic people
I am 21 weeks pregnant and my hubby and step son are very excited. Unfortunately when I fell ill with my current condition, my family stopped contact. I informed them when I first found out I was pregnant, which they were not too bothered about. When I announced it publicly, it seemed to re-ignite some kind of hatred for me and after a few days, I started receiving messages from relatives (aunts, cousins, etc) being really nasty and telling all kinds of lies, from me not telling anyone I was pregnant (which we proved we did) to me being money grabbing and work shy, not sick. They then decended to the fact I am cruel for forcing a child to come into this work, knowing their parent is disabled and sick, how I am a shame on the family and a sicko. It was very upsetting and I am trying my best to remain calm as stress causes crashes in my illness and I am scared of hurting the baby who is currently health, fine and my condition is not hereditary, so I think its just prejudice shining through. Does anyone know any good resources or places I can get advice on dealing with this nasty side of pregnancy with a disability?
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Nursery Issues
So many thing have been rudely said by my sons new nursery even befire he started. From the get go I have been told "they are not here for me to get a rest" even though my placement was only given due to doctors letter stating I needed to get more rest. I'm a single mummy to two kiddies the youngest was 3 two weeks ago. He started his induction week Monday just passed and it's been horrid for me. The settling in process at this nursery is a bit weird in the sense that parents stay in nursery and play with there child all week. My sons first day was great. He ran away straight away to play and did not see him again until time to leave. Parents had yet more paper work to do. Tuesday I had an appointment so my mum had to take him and she said he was fine. Wednesday was where it started to go wrong. I did as i was told and walked about, played with my son for 1hr 40 mins before practically callopsing as i need a rest. I had sat down for 6 mins exactly and was told by staff I had to get up and play with my child. I have a chest infection this week so feeling extra awful. This was the first day for lunch and he point blank refused lunch and had a mini meltdown, saying he was not hungry ect. No other member of staff tried to come and help to coax him in to try some lunch. Head teacher then comes over and tells me to go home and he would not be getting lunch next two days and just to come in and go before lunch time. How is that helping/fixing the situation? Thursday was a libery trip where everytime I tried to join in with singing I had a caughing fit, bad day for vertigo, and tremor too. Exhausted as i could not used a pushchair to balance myself as library was a walk away. Staff more or less ignored me. Friday was in the nursery but was ment to be the park. There was no way i could walk 2 hours to park ect, no reigns for my son and no pushchair to balance myself. No staff had been informed and i had to wait for 35 mins in hallway, of course my son was not happy and shouting I want to go play. Eventually got into play room very late and again mostly ignored and just left to wander about with my son and play with him. Went home at time i was told with even a goodbye except for receptionist on the way out the door. Thursday I had emailed the head teacher as she was unavailable whilst I was there and was told he is struggling to settle in, and imature, and i would have to come in all next week and until he will sit and eat all lunch. So next week I've had to cancel appointments ect and now face being on my feet for 4 hours at a time in this place, where I get told not to sit down. Told it could take weeks. Also told they would see how he goes day by day and would discuss it with me. No one has told me anything regarding Thursday or Friday probably because no one paid attention..His key worker is off after he met her for 5 minutes. My anxiety is bad as im exhausted and tremor is bad and other parents/teachers are talking about it. I know they all wonder why I am like i am. I think at least staff should be aware of my issues and be offering support.
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Parental rights as disabled in usa
I live in Minnesota a sate of the usa. I've been reading a lot about how parents who arr disabled are getting their children taken away because of a disability. I'm currently pregnant and have schizophrenia. I have two questions. My first question is that grounds to get my parental rights taken away/baby taken away when I have them? My second question if i get married will that prevent that from happening (my partner does not have a disability)
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Antenatal Classes
I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and I am due to start antenatal classes in September but my question is, do they provide these specifically for people with disabilities? I live in Ellesmere, Shropshire.
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I am looking for a car seat that would enable one handed fastening, anyone know what to look at.
I take care of my grandson often and for long periods of time. I am unable to get out and about with him, on my own. This is because securing the straps on his car seat is a real problem; due to my disability I can only use one hand.
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Can I get any kind of help after surgery?
I am a single parent with little to no support with raising my child. I'm currently going through the process of getting my osgood schlatters disease fixed (fingers crossed) but this may require me to have invasive surgery on both knees. Which will make looking after my 3 year old a little, impossible. I'm aware that the hospital may offer me support afterwards for myself. But I'm wanting to know if there's any help out there that covers the care of my child that I won't be able to provide. This is my main concern. Or would I have to rely on family? (which I have very little left of and no one is able to take the time out of their lives to provide the help).
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Services available to physically disabled women during labour/delivery
Just wondering if anyone knew any services that women with physical disabilities can use to help with safe births and maternal satisfaction, I've seen a lot for antenatal and postnatal but not a lot of services dedicated solely for labour.
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Having MS and not always able to move child away
I've read about the best ways to deal with your child, which in my current case with a one year old, is to pick them up so to move them away from where they shouldn't be, which is most of the time at the moment. What can/should I say or do to me avoid having to get up and physically move him?
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Wheelchair friendly stair gates
Are there any stair gates which still allow a wheelchair over them and don't obscure much of the door way itself?
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Help to get into work as a disabled parent
So, I'm a 26 year old disabled parent who loves my children but now they are both at school and nursery I'm desperate to get into work. I have a Lot of qualifications but nowhere will employ me because i can't walk independently, so would struggle to get to and from work and get from 'a' to 'b' in the workplace. Do any of you work and if so what do you do? I'd love an admin or reception position preferably in the field of health and social care because that's my area of qualification. Is there any way I could get practical support to get to and from work or help in the workplace? X
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I can't cope with life
I'm feeling so much stress from working and looking after my children. I have spina bifida and I'm an amputee, my mood is so low! I really really don't want social service involved or my home adapted because I want my kids to have a *normal* upbringing. I have no family only the kids dad side of the family. I can't carry on much longer
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Financial help with childcare
Hi I’m a single mum to a baby boy who just turned 1. I have Multiple Sclerosis and am unable to return back to work due to a worsening in my condition after the birth of my son. I would like to put my son in nursery 1-2 days a week so I can can work on my rehabilitation so my question is if there was any financial assistance available towards paying for childcare as I am unable to find anything online and direct gov has nothing on this subject.
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Having a baby as a blind person
My partner and I would really like to have a baby but we are both blind. Family keep telling us that we should not do this as it will be too difficult. Can you advise?
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